So, you’ve read the book (or both!), you’re motivated, your tidying festival is underway – and then you have to halt or pause or just take a break. In a perfect world, everyone and everything in your life would understand that you must KonMari NOW. You have a goal, and Kondo says that you must do this all at once. But this is reality and sometimes those outside forces just will not cooperate. I firmly believe that trying to fight those forces will only lead to frustration and may cause you to give up altogether – or to rebound. So here are a few tips to help keep you on track, even if life is trying to force you off the rails.
Celebrate Small Accomplishments Along the Way
If you know there is no way you are going to complete your tidying marathon in six months, break it into smaller, easily attainable goals to help you stay motivated. Set a deadline for completing one category (or subcategory) in its entirety. When that task is complete, take an after picture, post/tweet/Instagram it, share with friends, or just check it off your to-do list. Mark the occasion in some small way so that you will feel that sense of accomplishment and know that you are one step closer to reaching clutter-free nirvana.
Find Like-Minded Individuals to Share With
I was going to say “find a support group”, but this isn’t an illness! (Although some friends and family might disagree…) But seriously, having folks with whom to share your victories and your frustrations can have a huge impact on your success. First of all, they understand the process and know how challenging it can be. In addition, your fellow KonMari devotees can offer helpful suggestions when you need them. The Facebook group I belong to has been there to offer encouragement, answer a question, and let me vent. The best part? You never have to explain, “Well, I read this book about tidying by a Japanese woman…” We all get it!
Know When to Fold ‘Em
I’m not talking clothes here. You know you best. And you know your family and household best as well. So if you know that starting the next category or subcategory would not be prudent at this time, then don’t. And don’t feel pressured by the book; I know that sounds crazy, but Kondo is so inspirational, that you can almost feel like you are letting her down if you stray from her guidelines. But here’s the thing – she wants everyone to be successful, so if you know that the only way you’ll be ready to continue is if you take a short break now, then so be it.
This Isn’t Basketball – NO Rebounding
Just because you are taking a break, it doesn’t mean you forget all you have learned and accomplished so far. Kondo warns that rebounding (going back to all that clutter) is inevitable if you try to do this a little at a time. I understand her point and I even agree; it is very easy to revert if you are not seeing results. But I have to say that my closet, drawers, and kitchen cabinets are still in the same great shape now as they were when I completed those areas months ago. The impact of getting rid of so much stuff still resonates with me. To avoid a rebound it’s vital to maintain the areas that you’ve already completed. Pick a date to resume the process, and take your break with a clear conscience.
I wish I had been able to KonMari my whole house in six months; I probably would have made it if we hadn’t made the decision to empty the attic and storage unit in the middle of the process. But at least I’ll know that no stone has been left unturned; everything we own is clearly visible. And soon there will be much less of it to see.