Marie Kondo is everywhere these days. In the last few weeks she has been on The Ellen Degeneres Show and Rachael Ray. There have been articles on Parade.com – Sunday With: Marie Kondo and an interview with Good Housekeeping. There was even a Mother’s Day quiz on Elle Decor – “Who said it – Marie Kondo or Your Mom?” But probably the most anticipated event for her loyal followers, was “Tidy up with KonMari” a two-part series that aired on NHK World. We finally got to see her in action as she assisted two different women in New York to KonMari their homes. The books are great, but nothing beats actually getting to watch her work her magic with real people (except maybe having her come and work on MY home!) Don’t miss out – the videos are only available to watch until May 23!
Gina lives in Brooklyn with her husband and two children. Marie walks through the house with her and sees items piled on every horizontal surface and spilling out of every drawer, closet, and cabinet. I had my doubts. And yet, the before and after is remarkable. Emily is single, but planning to move her boyfriend in with her. She didn’t have as much clutter; it was mostly relegated to one room, but it was a room that was unusable because of the clutter. And it contained the hard stuff – the sentimental items. Yes, there were tears. You really need to watch these episodes for your yourself to appreciate what KonMari does, but here are my take-aways:
Start with the End in Mind
Marie asks each of the women what their ideal life will be like after they’ve finished tidying. That helps to set your goal and keep you motivated. So draw a picture, make a list, or put up a photo that helps you to envision what your space – and your life – will look like when you are finished.
Gather and Sort Works!
Whether it is clothing, papers, or bathroom supplies, each and every time she brings categories to a central location and sorts them. When you see like items all laid out in one place, you get a true sense of what you have and it makes it easier to discard those that you don’t need or want. It is a lot of work, but you’ll see that it is the most efficient way.
Don’t Buy Storage Items
You probably already own all the bins, dividers, and boxes you will need. And most items actually end up going into drawers and cabinets where space has been freed up. Use what you have as you go. I also noticed that some spaces ended up being temporary storage until they were complete. Once you’ve finished discarding and your entire space has been KonMari-ed, then you can see if you need to buy something that you don’t already have.
As you are going through this process, you are making a lot of decisions. But remember this – you are deciding what to KEEP, not what to discard. That initial shift in thinking is tough, but it really does improve your sensitivity to what holds value for you. And Kondo says, if you really can’t decide, that is probably a sign that you should let the item go.
Marie does not make any judgments about what the women decide to keep. She guides them when they seem to struggle and she is quiet as they work through the emotions. So if she’s not going to judge, you shouldn’t either! If something sparks joy and you want to keep it, then keep it without guilt and move on.
It Can be Done
I was thoroughly impressed by the fact that both women were able to complete this in two weeks. Yes, they did a little bit with KonMari at their side, but the bulk of the process was done during the two weeks that she was gone. Granted, these were small New York apartments, but I’m not sure it’s about the size. The women were committed and focused; you have to be ready and you have to want it.
We’re on hold here at my house. Ready to get back at it after the garage sale, then some home repairs took priority. But my KonMari journey is far from over…stay tuned!